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Wednesday, September 13, 2017

What-A-Bout-It Wednesday: ejnosillA is Back… So, Let’s Get This Party Started!!!

"As-Salaam-Alaikum," "Peace Be Unto You"

What-A-Bout-It Wednesday:

ejnosillA is Back… 
So, Let’s Get This Party Started!!!

Hey Beautiful Queens… I’m back after a brief hiatus!!! I am truly sorry for being inactive and not engaging with all on social media, but I just had a lot of things to catch up on. With writing and promoting my blog, working, trying to prioritize my time so I could complete my thesis… of course… being a mom to the FAB Five… and dealing with the struggles of being a Black Muslim woman in America… I just got so consumed that I had to prioritize my time and my life… but I am so happy to be back with you and a lot to share! Let’s begin…

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RedefiningHERstory is Branching Out

Although, I haven’t been writing on my blog in awhile, I have been promoting and networking like crazy. Marshawn Ford one of founders of 3 Sisters, a nonprofit organization in Nebraska, has been working with me in finding and writing grants to expand RedefiningHERstory. 

You know... it costs a pretty penny to promote, network, organize, buy supplies and resources needed to run a business... and my bank account is low... kind of like Madea's sugar levels... IT'S LOW!

With this expansion, I will be offering e-courses, resources and conducting various empowerment workshops to assist a forgotten and overlooked market... low-income, single Mothers of Color... this is where my heart lies and will always be... promoting and assisting women that I identify with and understand... I too have lived and in some cases am living their daily struggles! 

Now... before some of you get your panties up in a bunch... this will be an all inclusive expansion of all women... but my target audience is Women of Color, but will assist any woman that needs or calls upon me! So, if you have any leads for grants or other resources... hit your sistah up!

Currently, I am linking up with some beautiful sistahs who too are entrepreneurs in my area and trying to put together an empowerment workshop for women in 2018. Now, I have put together one of these types of workshops together before for single, low-income mothers, but never on this grand scale. 

This particular workshop will be under the umbrella of Breaking Generational Curses and it will be like no other!

It never seems to amaze me how creative women can be when you get us together and let us work! The beauty… and the secret is… that we all have our own unique specialties that we collectively bring as Black women and no one is trying to outdo each other… we all have our own lanes and we stay in them… if only life was as simple… You know what I mean?

Don’t you hate it sometimes when you should work in a team with other women…whether it be professionally, academically or personally… it seems that on or two… hecks… it could be you… that will want to be the HWIC… for you youngins… that means Head Woman in Charge and yes, I know… it can mean other things if you remove the “W” and add other letters… but for this blog we will stick with the “W!”

ejnosillA & Twins Supporting the Girls within Our Community
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Anyways… where was I… oh yeah… and everyone wants to be the boss… they don’t want to do the work… but want to be barking out the orders and they have no idea what they are supposed to be doing… well this is different. 

We all came with our own skillsets and we are all staying in our own lanes... unless asked. 

So… I am truly loving creating this workshop with them… oh yeah… shout out to Leressa the Life Coach and Neda Renee of Project Diva… these two ladies are AWESOME… click their names and check out their websites. Well… If you happen to be in town… please stop by the workshop… and I will be sending out information as it comes along… we would love to have you. 

Fashion Eyewear Ltd 

Finally, I have been invited to partner up with another sistah to create a podcast. Now... I don't know much about podcast and all of that stuff... but I think it will be fun to get into. We will be discussing issues that plague Women of Color and other topics that will be inclusive to all women. 

Basically, it will be me discussing topics that I blog about, but you will get a face and voice with the same funny humor, charm, wit and ideas. Same ejnosillA, but now you get to see and hear me... the uncensored... uncut version of me... don't know if that's a good thing because I can really be off the chain at times... Just Saying!


Well… yes… what can I say about work… um... still getting on my nerves... just kidding… still working and trying to survive. One of the main reasons I was absent over the summer was because I was teaching a Public Speaking course at night. I really enjoyed it and I can’t wait to start back this winter… 

The mug and the World's Best Teacher
However, it liked to have killed me… not the course but the 45-minute drive there and back. 

I promise you… the drive liked to have killed me… working all day and then all night… shot… I was happy but dreading when Wednesdays hit and it took me all the way to Tuesday nights to recover. 

I really enjoyed teaching the class and they bought me some wonderful gifts that I will forever cherish. I truly miss those ladies!


YES… YES… HELL YEAH… I FINALLY COMPLETED MY THESIS AND TURNED IT IN!!! I am truly excited and I give all the glory to ALLAH for guiding and blessing me with the ability to complete my thesis… Talking about what liked to have killed me… that damn thesis worked my NERVES… DO YOU HEAR ME?!? I can’t tell you how many times I wanted to throw my computer or a kid because it or they were getting on my nerves during this process… just talking for no reason… and half… no… more than half the nonsense they were stating didn’t even make sense… 

I wanted to stop so many times and shake them and ask them… “DO YOU HEAR THE FOOLISHNESS COMING OUT OF YOUR MOUTHS… DAMN… STOP BOTHERING ME WITH THIS NONSENSE… I’M TRYING TO WRITE MY THESIS! I DON'T CARE IF YOU'RE HUNGRY... GET OUT OF HERE!” JUST KIDDING... It’s funny… now that I think about it… now that I have submitted my thesis for final edits… these damn kids haven’t bothered me sense?!?

Well… just waiting for the go ahead from my chair and I should be defending my thesis hopefully… and if ALLAH wills it… the first or second week of October 2017! YESSSSSSSSSSS!

Graduation - December 2017 - Don't Mark Your Calendars Just Yet!

Now, the big problem is I don't want to participate in the graduation ceremony. Everyone keeps saying that it would be good for my kids to experience that... now... correct me if I am wrong... they have experienced it with the many academic awards I have won during my academic career... they've experienced it with me receiving my Associate's Degree... then my Bachelor's Degree and now I have to dvy out some more money to participate with my Master's Degree... and if I remember correctly... I had to wait some time to get those  degrees in the mail.

It seems like a waste of time and money to me... Check it out... First of all... they want me to pay more money to fight my way through graduation traffic to get to the ceremony...  then to sit for hours on end listening to long and boring speeches that don't reflect my reality... then to walk a country mile so I can walk across the stage to shake people's hands... that I never met until that day and will never see again... to get a blank piece of paper with a red ribbon on it when and it seems that after I have paid all of this money to get the education, you would think they would hand me my degree right then and there... not making me wait for snail mail to get my diploma!

So what do you think? Should I go or spend the money on something fun for me and the FAB Five can do as a family. Please leave your comments below.

Still getting on my damn nerves… dang you must didn’t read my previous comments… now I am going to need you ladies to keep up… just kidding… but for real… still getting on my nerves, but doing great... while getting on my nerves… enough said!

Now, I know all are wondering what and who the hecks is a K-Monster?!? Well, let me tell you... he's this little 8 month old little boy that keeps hitting me in the head with his bottle and eating up all my snacks while laughing at me... who is terrorizing my whole household. We are loving every little bit of it and him. He is the new and cute terror of the household... my godson and we love him so much. He has brought so much joy into our lives while terrorizing us... really... terrorizing us!

My Little Kaiden
As I sit here writing this blog... he is crawling in here... wait a minute... he stopped... let me be quiet... I think I am in the clear... Oh dang... he is peeking around the corner... he found me... I know this little cute monster is up to something... don't know what... but I can tell you it entails me screaming in agony and him laughing his little head off! Just Kidding... we love our little Kaiden and I enjoy every minute with him!

So... I have been busy babysitting little man and having a ball all the way!

ejnosillA’s Final Thoughts

Well… Queens… I have finally completed a milestone in my life and I am truly feeling grateful to ALLAH for all the blessings HE has bestowed upon me and my family! Without HIS divine guidance to Islam, I don't know where I would be, but I know I would have been lost and the struggle would have been worse! I am truly grateful! 

I am excited that RedefiningHERstory: One Blog Post at a Time will be expanding and I thank all of you... my loyal and patient readers... and of course... beautiful Queens for all of the love and support you have shown me. I really appreciate your support and I hope we can continue to grow as a family of strong, intelligent women! I am so happy to be back and I have missed communicating with you.

City Chic (Speciality Fashion Group) 

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Stay Blessed Queens!

May ALLAH continue to Bless Us ALL!!!
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Monday, June 26, 2017

Breaking the Generational Cycles From Mothers to Daughters Series: Are You Passing Your Relationship Insecurities Unto Your Daughters!?

"As-Salaam-Alaikum," "Peace Be Unto You"
RedefiningHERstory Presents:
Breaking the Generational Cycles From 
Mothers to Daughters Series Part I:
Are You Passing Your Relationship Insecurities Unto Your Daughters?!?

As I was strolling along the different avenues on Tha Book... just checking out what was going on in my various private groups I'm a member of... when I noticed that there were a lot of women publicly and bitterly hashing out their private relationship problems with their significant others on Facebook… saying stuff that alluded that there was a major betrayal and what would think kids think?!? 

However, something came to my mind: “I wonder how many of these women are passing along these same vicious and bitter sentiments unto their daughters and more importantly… have I?!?”

Saturday, June 17, 2017

I Don't Mind You Saying Happy Father’s Day to Me... but I like Happy Single Mother's Day Better!!!

"As-Salaam-Alaikum," "Peace Be Unto You"

A Day in the Life of ejnosillA

I Don't Mind You Saying Happy Father’s Day to Me... but I like Happy Single Mother's Day Better!!!

Happy Father’s Day to ALL the Single Mother’s Out There!!!

As I am catching up on odds and ends… that really sounded like I was really doing some important work… but I was really strolling through the YouTube streets catching up on all my reality show reviews and other gossip… I received a very interesting phone call from my eldest daughter.

See, Ms. DeLo and her uncle… my youngest brother… Frankie Ali… had a public debate on Tha Book about Father’s Day and who should be celebrated. See her stance was based on my single mother status of the FAB Five and his status was based on him being a divorced, single father raising two little girls.

Sunday, June 4, 2017

Don’t Even Think About It… This Isn't Your Friendly Neighborhood Teenage Summer Camp… So Keep It Moving Sista and Take Those Kids With You!!

"As-Salaam-Alaikum," "Peace Be Unto You"

Soulful Sundays:

Don’t Even Think About It… 
This Isn't Your Friendly Neighborhood Teenage Summer Camp… So Keep It Moving Sista and Take Those Kids With You!!

Well, Ladies... I'm back from my sister's wedding in Florida and in full effect... I will blog about my little adventure in the near future! However, as I sit reading and commenting on some of my fellow bloggers’ websites… 

I can’t tell you how many baby blogs I have read that talked about various types of pregnancies… bringing baby home… Postpartum…  breastfeeding… the best breast pumps… best baby products such as bottles, formula and diapers… best baby clothes and where to find the best deals… how long to wait before you can be intimate after having your baby… 

Seriously, I've read so many baby blogs and all that baby talk leads me to believe that a lot of my fellow bloggers were doing a lot more than blogging this winter in their spare time…Um Uh…  Just Saying!

Wednesday, May 17, 2017

50 Shades of Gay: My Beloved Son, Change Your Ways… Homosexuality is a Sin… So is Fornication, My Beloved Daughter!

"As-Salaam-Alaikum," "Peace be unto you"
50 Shades of Gay:
My Beloved Son, Change Your Ways… Homosexuality is a Sin… So is Fornication, My Beloved Daughter!

As I sit here reflecting on my life… I oftentimes do that after reading my Quran… I often ponder about the spiritual fate of my children… who I affectionately call the FAB Five… I can vividly remember a time that my life was in turmoil because of one of sons' life changing decisions.

The events surrounding this emotional... mental... physical and spiritual turmoil began my path to accepting his stance... all of the different scenarios, allowed me to open my mind... my heart... and above all... made me take my judgemental spotlight off of him... and turn it around and shine it upon myself. Let's begin... 

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