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Sunday, November 12, 2017

Soulful Sundays: Ladies... Is Your Self-Worth Wrapped Up in Materialism?

"As-Salaam-Alaikum," "Peace Be Unto You"
Soulful Sundays Presents:
ejnosillA... "What'z Good?!?"
Ladies... Is Your Self-Worth Wrapped Up in Materialism?

I’M BACK QUEENS! Now I know some of you are thinking: “Dang… how many times her azz is going to come back?!?” Well, I’m here to tell you: “A LOT OF TIMES BECAUSE I LIKE THE ATTENTION!” Just Kidding.

While I busy checking my emails to see what you Queens wanted me to talk about… yes… if you haven’t gotten the memo… Ladies are sending emails for their request of topics and questions they want me to address or answer which I call… ejnosillA... "What'z Good?!?"

You too can be a part of this movement by emailing me at ejnosilla@redefiningherstory.blog if you have a question or topic ideas you want me to discuss... put ejnosillA... "What'z Good?!?" in the subject line and I will do my best to address your concerns ASAP!

Okay… Okay… where was I… Oh yeah… I was busy checking my emails and I noticed that a lot of the Queens were discussing how their men have a lot of “Don’t Gots.” 

You know… they don’t got this… they don’t got that and so on, but it seemed that they made it a point to express all the material things they have... they've brought into and bought during their relationship.

This really got me to thinking... Queens… is your self-worth wrapped up in materialism?

Saturday, November 4, 2017

YES Queens... It's Finally Over

"As-Salaam-Alaikum," "Peace Be Unto You"
A Day in the Life of ejnosillA:
YES Queens... It's Finally Over!

Yes... Yes... Yessssssssssssssssss!!! It's FINALLY Over!!! I have completed my Master's Degree in Communication Studies!!! YESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS!!!

I am truly blessed to have ALLAH guiding my life and blessing me! 

Here is my dedication and acknowledgments. I appreciate all! If you would like to read it... as soon as it is approved... ProQuest will release it and thanks for all of the love and support.


MA in Communication Studies

THE BLACK FEMINIST THOUGHT REDEFINING HERSTORY:
“THIS IS NOT MY REALITY!”


Abstract:


This qualitative research study explored the collective lived experiences of why Black female audience members watched predominantly all-Black female reality shows and discussed how they interpreted the behaviors exhibited by the Black female personalities. Black Feminist Thought served as the theoretical paradigm for this project and guided the responses to the three research questions that steered this study. This analysis revealed that the media’s stereotypical generalities have influenced societal norms, ideologies and created a prejudiced media culture that have used the Black woman’s race, gender and social class to stereotypically characterized aspects of Black womanhood and exploited their oppressive state. In-depth interviews with six Black female viewers of Black female reality based shows that feature a predominantly all-Black female cast were conducted. Phenomenological research was implemented to collect, analyze and categorize the data into three emergent themes and nine subthemes. The study’s findings revealed the following: (a). Black female participants watched Black female reality television to fulfill entertainment purposes; (b). for the dramatic elements; and (c). and for the relatable characters and content. Further analysis of their collective lived experiences revealed the awareness of controlling images and stereotypical behaviors perpetuated and reinforced on Black female reality television. Additionally, their combined statements suggest that positive images of successful Black women on Black female reality television could serve as a counteractive measure to redefine Black womanhood.
Key words:  Black Feminist Thought; Black womanhood; controlling images; media                      stereotypes; stereotypical depictions; intersectionality, Black female reality                                        television; sistahood

Dedication


I dedicate this thesis to myself.

I am the first and the last

I am the honored one and the scorned one I am the whore and the holy one

I am the wife and the virgin

I am the barren one and many are my daughters I am the silence you cannot understand

I am the utterance of my name I am the Black woman.

(taken from Julie Dash's (1991), Daughters of the Dust)

Acknowledgments

بِسْمِ اللَّهِ الرَّحْمَنِ الرَّحِيم. In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

To Cynthia Gaye Ritchie Allison… My Phenomenal Black Queen:

You have always encouraged me to be proud, educated and successful. You taught me that my Black was Beautiful and to always remember and never let go of that. Mommy although you are no longer with me, you will always be my everything! I LOVE and MISS YOU SO MUCH!

To Bilal Nosilla… My First Love in its Purest Form:

Thanks Daddy for always being my number one supporter and always being there for me throughout all my growing pains! You will forever and always be my first love! I thank you for always being that strong, intelligent Black male presence in my life as well as my children’s lives. You mean the world to me and my words cannot express how much I LOVE YOU, Dad-da!

To My FAB Five:

DeLores, DéVon, Darius, Emya and Emia… Mommy LOVES YOU DEARLY!
Thanks for always being the inspiration I needed to continue my pursuit of happiness and picking up the slack while mommy was pursuing and achieving my various goals while being understanding. Although we have been through many ups and downs, you each have made my life more significant. You five are truly the loves of my life and I am so proud of you all!

To My Siblings:

Phillip, Jennifer, James and Rasheed… you four have been truly with me through my good and bad times. I thank ALLAH for blessing me with such wonderful siblings who know me best. Regardless of the circumstances, you four have always been there with me and I wholeheartedly thank you and love you dearly!

To the Sophisticated Sistahs in My VIP “Sistah Circle:”

Richetta “Chi-Chi” Henry, Theresa “Tree-Tree/Suge Avery” Davis, Lorsie, Flu, Belle, Ressa, Mallory, Tyresa, LaRhonda, Sandy Girl, Shonna, Kendall Brooks-Coleman, Maquanya, and Devers… You Queens mean the world to me. I wholeheartedly thank you for always being there for me no matter my headspace or the situation at the time. We have an unbreakable “sistahly bond!” We have always respected and treated each other as true sistahs… even though we are not blood related sistahs. You truly have made my dark times brighter and happier! I thank ALLAH for blessing me with your sistahships. I LOVE YOU ALL SO MUCH!

To ALL My Family and Friends:

Thanks so much for all the love you have given me and all the support throughout these years of my life! Thanks for all the support you have given me while I pursued my academic, personal and/or professional goals as well as supporting me with my creative expression project… my website:
 RedefiningHERstory: One Blog Post at a Time.
ALLAH has truly blessed me, and I LOVE YOU ALL!

To My Committee Members:

Dr. Robinson, Dr. Cruz, Dr. Bingham and Professor Jones… each of you are phenomenal professors and women who have played a key role in my academic journey, which has allowed me to achieve my goals. Thank you for assisting me in achieving a positive outcome that not only reflects my scholarly skillset but one that also has the capability to cultivate more research being conducted on Black women in Communication Studies; thus, giving us a voice in academia.

To My Beloved Mentor:

Mrs. Phyllis Brown… You truly have been such a gracious mentor, supervisor and friend. Without you, I may not have ever found my way to ALLAH and thanks for all the spiritual guidance! I thank you and Mr. Beauford for always opening your home to my FAB Five and me all the time.  Thanks for the all the countless talks that were riddle with humor and sprinkled with priceless wisdom. Thanks for being a part of my life! LOVE YOU BOTH DEARLY!

To My Metropolitan Community College (MCC) Family:

Tammy Woslager, Sheila O’Connor, Wilma Hjellum, Dr. Mary Umberger, Ms. Kathy J. Trotter, Deb LaHoda, Deb Holst, Helen Fountain, Char West, Marian Kraft, Roberta Neal, Ty Wagner, Melissa Hadden, Dr. Cynthia Gooch-Grayson, Pamela Leonard, and Mrs. Georgia Culliver… You beautiful ladies were all with me when I started my academic journey cheering and mentoring me all the way. When I wanted to give up, each one in your own way inspired me to keep going, enduring and shining. I thank you for your love and support throughout this stressful, academically challenging, but rewarding journey. You all are truly a blessing and I cannot thank ALLAH or you enough for all the love, wisdom and support!

Special Thanks:

Ms. Smith, Ms. Washington, Rosemary Carney and my Aunt Cheryl Wynn… You ladies are such a blessing in my life and I thank you for your infinite wisdom! I Love You Dearly!!!

Dr. Colette Polite… thanks for taking out the time to edit my masterpiece and being such a dear friend/mentor to DeLores. You are truly appreciated!

Dr. Lesa… Thank you for your assistance with my comps… without you… I wouldn’t be here!

Final Acknowledgments:

To All Others I May Have Forgotten… I would like to wholeheartedly and personally thank the ones that I may have forgotten to thank and all who have always been there in my corner while I was striving to achieve my many pursuits of RedefiningMYstory throughout the year. Thanks for always keeping it real with your much-needed insights.

This Master’s Degree is not just mines, it is all of ours!


Introductory Poem

Richetta L. Henry, 2017
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Due to popular demands of my family, friends and my readers... I have decided to walk across the stage in December 2017. I will be having a 90s theme graduation party to celebrate the occasion... just doing this because the music of today is too much for me... hecks... I don't understand it... to violent! I'm a lover by nature and I love the 90s hip hop and R&B jams... like Jodeci, Boyz to Men... Beyonce... when she was with those children of hers and so on... 

Now... die hard Beyonce fans... I think they are called the Beehives... please don't come around here starting any mess... I would hate to pull out my Bee-Be-Gone spray and fly swatter... Just Saying!

Anyways...

Thank you all for your love and support throughout my many journeys and I love you all! If a low income single mom of five can reach for the stars and fulfill her dreams... so can you... Just Saying!

****NOTE****

I have been receiving your emails and I will begin answering your relationship questions or concerns as well as everything else... ASAP. I appreciate your patience and I haven't forgot about my Queens! 

If you too have comments, questions, concerns or topic requests, please feel free to leave it in the comment section below or email me at ejnosilla@redefiningherstory.blog.

Stay Blessed Queens!

~ejnosillA


May Allah guide you and give you the strength and confidence to step unto YOUR Path of Greatness!!!

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Saturday, September 23, 2017

Separate but Equal: The History Behind National American Business Women’s Day


"As-Salaam-Alaikum," "Peace Be Unto You"

A Day in the Life of ejnosillA

Separate but Equal: 

The History Behind National American Business Women’s Day


Yesterday, I remembered sitting at work trying to get my mind right for the work day and thinking to myself… why is everybody making so much noise in the hallway by my door and it’s too early for this nonsense? 

As I was pondering if I should open the door and politely ask them to move it on down the hallway… a coworker knocked on my office door and invited me to come into the break room because she has bought a variety of doughnuts and then wishes me a “Happy Business Women's Day!”

Wednesday, September 13, 2017

What-A-Bout-It Wednesday: ejnosillA is Back… So, Let’s Get This Party Started!!!

"As-Salaam-Alaikum," "Peace Be Unto You"

What-A-Bout-It Wednesday:

ejnosillA is Back… 
So, Let’s Get This Party Started!!!

Hey Beautiful Queens… I’m back after a brief hiatus!!! I am truly sorry for being inactive and not engaging with all on social media, but I just had a lot of things to catch up on. With writing and promoting my blog, working, trying to prioritize my time so I could complete my thesis… of course… being a mom to the FAB Five… and dealing with the struggles of being a Black Muslim woman in America… I just got so consumed that I had to prioritize my time and my life… but I am so happy to be back with you and a lot to share! Let’s begin…

Monday, June 26, 2017

Breaking the Generational Cycles From Mothers to Daughters Series: Are You Passing Your Relationship Insecurities Unto Your Daughters!?

"As-Salaam-Alaikum," "Peace Be Unto You"
RedefiningHERstory Presents:
Breaking the Generational Cycles From 
Mothers to Daughters Series Part I:
Are You Passing Your Relationship Insecurities Unto Your Daughters?!?


As I was strolling along the different avenues on Tha Book... just checking out what was going on in my various private groups I'm a member of... when I noticed that there were a lot of women publicly and bitterly hashing out their private relationship problems with their significant others on Facebook… saying stuff that alluded that there was a major betrayal and what would think kids think?!? 

However, something came to my mind: “I wonder how many of these women are passing along these same vicious and bitter sentiments unto their daughters and more importantly… have I?!?”

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