Breaking the Generational Cycles From Mothers to Daughters Series: Are You Passing Your Relationship Insecurities Unto Your Daughters!?

"As-Salaam-Alaikum," "Peace Be Unto You"

RedefiningHERstory Presents:

Breaking the Generational Cycles From 
Mothers to Daughters Series Part I:

Are You Passing Your Relationship Insecurities Unto Your Daughters?!?

As I was strolling along the different avenues on Tha Book... just checking out what was going on in my various private groups I'm a member of... when I noticed that there were a lot of women publicly and bitterly hashing out their private relationship problems with their significant others on Facebook… saying stuff that alluded that there was a major betrayal and what would think kids think?!? 

However, something came to my mind: “I wonder how many of these women are passing along these same vicious and bitter sentiments unto their daughters and more importantly… have I?!?”

I Don't Mind You Saying Happy Father’s Day to Me... but I like Happy Single Mother's Day Better!!!

"As-Salaam-Alaikum," "Peace Be Unto You"

A Day in the Life of ejnosillA

I Don't Mind You Saying Happy Father’s Day to Me... but I like Happy Single Mother's Day Better!!!

Happy Father’s Day to ALL the Single Mother’s Out There!!!

As I am catching up on odds and ends… that really sounded like I was really doing some important work… but I was really strolling through the YouTube streets catching up on all my reality show reviews and other gossip… I received a very interesting phone call from my eldest daughter.

See, Ms. DeLo and her uncle… my youngest brother… Frankie Ali… had a public debate on Tha Book about Father’s Day and who should be celebrated. See her stance was based on my single mother status of the FAB Five and his status was based on him being a divorced, single father raising two little girls.

Don’t Even Think About It… This Isn't Your Friendly Neighborhood Teenage Summer Camp… So Keep It Moving Sista and Take Those Kids With You!!

"As-Salaam-Alaikum," "Peace Be Unto You"

Soulful Sundays:

Don’t Even Think About It… 

This Isn't Your Friendly Neighborhood Teenage Summer Camp… So Keep It Moving Sista and Take Those Kids With You!!

Well, Ladies... I'm back from my sister's wedding in Florida and in full effect... I will blog about my little adventure in the near future! However, as I sit reading and commenting on some of my fellow bloggers’ websites… 

I can’t tell you how many baby blogs I have read that talked about various types of pregnancies… bringing baby home… Postpartum…  breastfeeding… the best breast pumps… best baby products such as bottles, formula and diapers… best baby clothes and where to find the best deals… how long to wait before you can be intimate after having your baby… 

Seriously, I've read so many baby blogs and all that baby talk leads me to believe that a lot of my fellow bloggers were doing a lot more than blogging this winter in their spare time…Um Uh…  Just Saying!

50 Shades of Gay: My Beloved Son, Change Your Ways… Homosexuality is a Sin… So is Fornication, My Beloved Daughter!

"As-Salaam-Alaikum," "Peace be unto you"

50 Shades of Gay:

My Beloved Son, Change Your Ways… Homosexuality is a Sin… So is Fornication, My Beloved Daughter!

As I sit here reflecting on my life… I oftentimes do that after reading my Quran… I often ponder about the spiritual fate of my children… who I affectionately call the FAB Five… I can vividly remember a time that my life was in turmoil because of one of sons' life changing decisions.

The events surrounding this emotional... mental... physical and spiritual turmoil began my path to accepting his stance... all of the different scenarios, allowed me to open my mind... my heart... and above all... made me take my judgemental spotlight off of him... and turn it around and shine it upon myself. Let's begin... 

A Day in the Life of ejnosillA - Another Mother's Day Spent Missing My Mommy!!!

"As-Salaam-Alaikum," "Peace be unto you"

A Day in the Life of ejnosillA

Another Mother's Day Spent Missing My Mommy!!!

Mother’s Day is a time of year that we Queens celebrate our mothers and it gives us a wonderful opportunity to spend the day giving her our undivided attention. It’s a day were we… mothers… can lay back and relax and let our children take care of us for once… well at least in theory… It’s the one day of the year that you reflect and show that special Queen in your life how special she is and how much we appreciate her sacrifices while raising our hard-heads… it’s a time of remembering... laughing and celebrating your Queen! Well... Ladies... Mother’s Day for me is a bittersweet time of the year…

Ladies…Did You Forget About Your 2017 Graduate… Don’t Fret… You're Not Alone?!?

"As-Salaam-Alaikum," "Peace be unto you"

A Day in the Life of ejnosillA

Ladies… Did You Forgot About Your 2017 Graduate… Don’t Fret… You're Not Alone!

See... it's not like me to drop the ball... I am usually the go to person within my family... and people are usually counting on me to fix it... and figure out whatever is going on at that time. In the meantime... If you are a lot like me… I am always on the go… with working, schooling, blogging and of course… mothering. 

Ladies… Don’t be Ashamed of Your Truths… They’re A Part of You

"As-Salaam-Alaikum," "Peace be unto you"

Motivational Mondays:

Ladies… Don’t be Ashamed of Your Truths… They’re A Part of You

As women, we are taught to be ashamed of a lot of things… ashamed of our weight… or our independence or our sexuality… in my case… having five children out of wedlock. Regardless of your personal situation… with age comes life experiences and with life experiences comes wisdom… you see where I am going with this… and with wisdom comes the acceptance of our truths.

Through your truths… or your life experiences… the ups and downs… the highs and lows… or however YOU want… or need… to classify them… these experiences are what makes you the beautiful woman that you are.

Amazon's Top Deals for Mother’s Day… For the Mom Who Just Wants to Survive Mother’s Day… Have a Heart and Please Rescue Me!?!

"As-Salaam-Alaikum," "Peace be unto you"

A Day in the Life of ejnosillA

Amazon's Top Picks for Mother’s Day… For the Mom Who Just Wants to Survive Mother’s Day… 

Have a Heart and Please Rescue Me!?!

Oh… Mother’s Day… normally, it’s a time of year that all mothers are celebrated and rewarded for surviving the pains of childbirth… and raising… or in my case… dealing with… and more importantly… surviving the FAB Five’s holiday shenanigans!

Let me tell you… being a single mom, raising these 5 children of mines… there have been some trying times… and it’s been by the grace of GOD… that I have survived another year… For what?

Is this some type of sick joke?!? Who the heck made up this day?!? 

I betcha it had to be some man who thought it would be cute to honor his mom and she probably bragged about it to her neighbor who got on the phone and told her Sista circle… and...

We all know... that some women just have to be... keeping up with those dang Joneses and them... and... 

Now I’m sitting here trying to figure out how to fake my own death… and dreading the fact that on Sunday, May 14, 2017… mark the date Ladies…  I unfortunately...  once again… must pull out my ejnosillA's Mother’s Day Survival Kit!!!

Now… I know you are saying… what can be so bad about ejnosillA's Mother’s Days?!? Well… Sista Girl… let me tell you!

First of all, the oldest one… my beloved daughter… is going to get the shenanigans started! 

She’s going to come up with the bright idea of… and somehow convinces the other four that... “Let’s cook mom breakfast in bed...” is a great ideal!

While, I'm in my room trying to figure out my Mother's Day Escape Plan because I know that I told her... and now... them... individually... collectively... that... “All I want is a day of peace and quiet.” 

The same thing I tell them every year… for every holiday… because I know my health is in jeopardy!

See, what I mean is… although my daughter is brilliant, stylish and has grown into such a beautiful young lady… the kind that any mother would be proud of… she has one important flaw… SHE CAN’T COOK!

I don't care how many times I have showed her how to cook... basic things... she just can't cook!

I PROMISE YOU… I CAN’T TAKE ANOTHER YEAR OF THIS… undercooked, burnt or scorched… eggs, burnt and hard turkey bacon… crunchy pancakes… the house filled with smoke…oh my goodness... the aroma... just thinking about it... got my asthma trying to flare up... 

Just imagine for a minute... me pretending I'm sleep... wishing that I was dead...  and having to pretend that I really like the food… hecks… I should have won an Oscar by now… I can't afford to go to the E.R. to get my stomach pumped this year... please somebody... anybody... STOP LAUGHING... and Help Me?!?

What happened to the "GOOD OLE DAYS..." when she... and now them... would just bring mommy a card they made at school… or an ashtray… that started off as a coffee mug… but that’s not the point… I miss those days… 

Those safer days… those days that didn’t require me to be spending my whole Mother’s Day in the bathroom crying… GOD… WHY ME… ALL I WANTED WAS A PEACEFUL DAY OFF… Oh my… how time flies… AND NOW THIS DREADFUL HOLIDAY IS CLOSING IN ON ME!!!

So… in order for me to save my life… and the lives of other mothers who have found themselves in this life-threatening predicament… and having to pull out your Mother’s Day Survival Kit… 

I have taken it upon myself to make a list of the top 7 Amazon items that I would prefer to receive for Mother’s Day... Let’s begin…

18” Sterling Silver – 14k Rose Gold Diamond Triple Heart Pendant Necklace

The 18” Sterling Silver, 14k rose gold diamond accent triple heart pendant necklace features three intertwined hearts. I can see myself sporting this triple heart pendant necklace around town. 

This a great gift for a mother who is trying to dodge the emergency room on Mother’s Day… a mom like me! 

Click the link to get more details about the beautiful 18” Sterling Silver – 14k Rose Gold Diamond Triple Heart Pendant Necklace.

Kindle E-reader 

The Kindle E-reader is available in my choice of black or white. With its 6" new, thinner and lighter design is equipped with a glare-free touchscreen display. 

Can you imagine it… no screen glare… even in bright sunlight that will read just like real paper… I can becasuse that’s just what I need with these bad eyes of mines!

Kindle E-reader’s single battery charge will last for weeks and not hours… which is a plus for me because I always seem to be running all over the house… searching for my missing charger… that has mysteriously walked down the hall and plugged itself in the outlet in the twins room.

The Kindle E-reader will allow me to hold thousands of books… that means I can read…  uninterrupted with no alerts or notifications… and if my kids really want to show out for Mother’s Day… they can get me a Amazon Prime membership… so I can read over a thousand titles for free with unlimited access!

The Kindle E-reader is affordable... is available in black or white colors and would be a wonderful Mother’s Day gift… click the link for more details about the Kindle E-reader.

Mom Art Print

The Mom Art Print is the perfect gift for a mother who is trying to avoid going to the hospital on Mother's Day... once again... a mom like me!

These personalized Mom Art Print can be personalized with your name, date and has a variety of background colors. 

These beautiful Mom Art Prints are professionally printed on premium luster photo paper using archival and fade resistant inks.

This is the gift that will last me a lifetime of pleasant memories... and you too... click the link to find out more details about the Mom Art Print.

Handbag and Purse Light by Noor

Noor’s Handbag and Purse Light would be a needed accessory to go with my purse because I am always losing something in there. Ladies if you’re like me… I have everything in my purse… minus the kitchen sink!

You need a band aid… I got it… or you need a Kleenex… yep… I got it… you need a safety pin... got that too… but… the only problem is… it’s always at the bottom of my purse and I need some light to find what I am looking for down that big dark hole. 
 

Noor’s Handbag and Purse Light is equipped with sensors that are activated by the movement of your hands… so there aren’t any buttons or switches to push.

No more pricking my fingers in the dark or having to remove every single item out of my purse to see what I am looking for… I clip the illuminator inside my bag… one motion of my hand in my purse and… PRESTO… 

I have light that stays on for 10 seconds before automatically turning off… and… the best part… and my selling point to the FAB Five… 

It’s Affordable Too! Click the link for more details about the Noor’s Handbag and Purse Light.

Echo Dot (2^nd generation)

The Echo Dot (2^nd generation) has limitless features that is equipped with 7 far-field microphones. 

Another feature of the Echo Dot (2^nd generation) is it is equipped with voice-control to play music from your favorite online music stations – Amazon Music, Spotify, Pandora, iHeartRadio, TuneIn, and much more.

Amazon brags that this new-age, voice-controlled and hands-free device can hear me from a far range even if I have the latest jams playing… I wonder if I can get an Echo Dot (2^nd generation) attached to each one of my five children… hecks... They seem to not hear me when there’s nothing playing in the house and we are standing in the same room! 

If I need my lights turned on/off… or the heater/air conditioner turned up/down… or need the doors locked… well the Echo Dot (2^nd generation)... has me covered and it’s compatible with  connected devices from WeMo, Philips Hue, Samsung SmartThings, Nest, ecobee, and many, many more!

Mommy’s dutiful, little assistant has a built-in-speaker and has the capability to work in all areas of the home… meaning I can voice-control my home… I can call out to the Echo Dot (2^nd generation) and my wish is its command!

With me being a bargain shopper and I am always looking for a deal, I really do like the Echo Dot (2nd generation).... and... the price is just right!

If the Echo Dot (2nd generation) is as good as I think it is... the FAB Five better watch out... they might just get replaced... I will take five please... one for each kid... Just Saying! I

Echo Dot (2nd generation) is available in black or white… click the link to check out more details about the Echo Dot (2nd generation).

Fire Tablet with Alexa

Fire Tablet with Alexa has a 7" display equipped with Alexa cloud-based voice service… so all I have to do is press a button and ask… and once again… it shall be done.

The Fire Tablet with Alexa comes in an array of stylish colors which promises me that this cute, swanky device will allow me to view all of my favorite movies and TV shows… and I can play games too!

The Fire Tablet with Alexa is equipped with 8 or 16 GB… depending on my preference and the amount of money the children are willing to spend… and...

It has a microSD slot that can hold up to 200 GB of expandable storage… and has up to 7 hours of battery life… for a reasonable price… which is a special offer! 

Now… who can resist a special offer? Click on the link to get more details about the Fire Tablet with Alexa - 8 GB.

Amazon Happy Mother's Day Gift Card in a Greeting Card

The Amazon Happy Mother's Day gift card in a greeting card is a wonderful way to say I love you to a mother who doesn't have the stomach to eat one more burnt Mother's Day breakfast, brunch or dinner!

 

The Amazon Happy Mother's Day gift card allows the mom... that's me... the freedom to purchase whatever my heart desires from the comfort of my own home... or a hospital bed...

It guarantees that I get the gift that I love and will appreciate... and they will be so busy arguing about how much money to put on there... that they won't have time to cook me any surprise meals in bed... Just Saying! 

Click on the link for more details about the Amazon Happy Mother's Day Gift Card in a Greeting Card

ejnosillA's Final Thoughts

In closing... these truly are wonderful gifts that any mother would be so thrilled to get... and I am praying so hard that one of these will be given to me on Mother's Day... 

So... I am begging you... if anyone of you knows one of the FAB Five... please share this with them... but... 

If I know my daughter with her persuasive skills... meaning... she is going to bully the other four into doing what she wants to do... only because she is the oldest... I probably will be spending my Mother's Day in the bathroom... as usual... Just Saying!!

Well... I guess... I better get my bags packed and ready... and run to the nearest Wal-Mart to stock up on some much needed supplies for my Mother's Day Survival Kit... let me see... I guess better stock up on a variety of antacids, laxatives... or Pepto Bismol... I never know what their meals will do to my insides... okay... let me think... oh yeah... Ginger Ale and crackers... and before I go...

If there is anybody out there who has a heart... would you please rescue me!!! As usual...

Stay Blessed Queens!

May ALLAH Bless ALL of the Beautiful Mothers of the World!

~ejnosillA

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Girlfriend... Don't Allow Ms. Sista Parasite to Poison Your Life... With Her Petty Jealousies!!!

"As-Salaam-Alaikum," "Peace be unto you"

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Girlfriend... Don't Allow Ms. Sista Parasite to Poison Your Life... With Her Petty Jealousies!!!

Hey Ladies… do you have a homegirl that you find yourself side eyeing because of random things she says or does… You know the kind of chick that you swear she seems to be happy when you’re miserable… or she seems to be your friend in your face… but behind your back you're hearing some-thangs? Well… Sista Girl… I hate to tell you this… it seems like you got yourself a... Ms. Sista Parasite!

She-Piphany Moments: Finding the Diamond Within… The Secret to Becoming the Woman You Desire to Be…

"As-Salaam-Alaikum," "Peace be unto you" 

She-Piphany Moments:

Finding the Diamond Within… The Secret to Becoming the Woman You Desire to Be…

We as women all have secret desires and dreams of becoming something exceptional. We all have images and dreams in our minds and hearts of the woman we one day aspire to be… 

Meaning… we all are wishing that one day we reach our God-given potential and hoping that one day that we discover our capabilities to become the most beautiful woman that we were born to be… we… and I… just want the opportunity to fulfill our dreams and secret desires so that we are living the most fulfilling life this world has to offer!

We must be truthful with ourselves and let go of everything that is not who we want to be. You are already becoming the sexy, self-assured, positive and happy woman that you long to be. 

So… basically… you already have all of the answers within you… but… all that is preventing you are the roadblocks you have created within you… now all we have to do is figure out whatever it is that is blocking you from becoming the woman you desire to be… Let’s begin…

Soulful Sundays: Forgiveness is not Just a Formality... It's a State of Mind!!!

"As-Salaam-Alaikum," "Peace be unto you" 

Soulful Sundays: Forgiveness is not Just a Formality... 
It's a State of Mind!!!

As I sit here trying to catch up on all of the ratchetness… called reality television… and trying to figure out what today’s topic will be… I have noticed a common theme… these women don’t know how to truly forgive each other and move on…

Now some may say it’s because they have run out of material… so we must keep revisiting old… drug out storylines… and at first I agreed… but as I analyze the situation more closely, it seems that the reason for these storylines being presented… is not only to boost ratings because we all know drama sells… but these women have not truly forgiven each other and constructively dealt with whatever betrayals they feel another has inflicted on them.

If I Didn’t… and I Don’t… Celebrate Easter… So… Why the Hecks am I the One… Cleaning this Mess Up!?!

"As-Salaam-Alaikum," "Peace be unto you"

If I Didn’t… and I Don’t… Celebrate Easter… So… Why the Hecks am I the One… Cleaning this Mess Up!?!

On Monday... my day off to relax and catch up on things while the twins are at school… I found myself dragging to clean up the mess left on my porch and in my yard from visiting neighborhood kids whose families celebrate Easter… with an attitude NO Doubt… because I am tired from babysitting a newborn who decided that he wanted to talk all night… seriously… 

I didn’t get to bed to around 9:00 on Monday morning… and even though I am Muslim and we don’t celebrate the holidays… honestly, I haven’t celebrated Easter in years or really any other holidays except Christmas… hecks… I even stopped celebrating my birthday some years ago… for the life of me… can’t figure out… " If I Didn’t… and I Don’t… Celebrate Easter... So... Why the Hecks am I the One… Cleaning this Mess Up?!?

RedefiningHERstory Presents: “Da Get Down on Social Media's Streetz”

"As-Salaam-Alaikum," "Peace be unto you"

RedefiningHERstory Presents: 

“Da Get Down on Social Media's Streetz" 

Today's Topics: Muslim Judge Sheila Abdus-Salaam… Found Dead, R.I.P. Charlie Murphy, Janet Jackson’s Divorce, and Kandi Burruss’s Lawsuit?!?

Now... before we get started... “Da Get Down on Social Media's Streetz” will showcase content that discussing trending topics on social media. You know those topics that make you cry or even laugh… or the ones that you mentally classify as being rich people's problems… 

Or the ones that make you say… in your Jay Kyle’s voice… You know… Jay... the mom from My Wife and Kids… okay… this Jay that says… “What Type of Foolishness” is this while shaking your head and thanking GOD for the fact that… you may be poor… or not where you want to be… but at least you got some sense about yourself and if you every get your chance… or hit that dang lottery… you will show those fools!! 

"Da Get Down"... for short... was coined by my lovely twin daughters and their friends... Wow... teenagers can be so creative at times... when you can finally get them off those dang cell phones... Let’s begin…

50 Shades of Gay: Why Doesn’t That Boy Take Those Tight Jeans Off… Before Somebody Gets a Yeast Infection?!?

"As-Salaam-Alaikum," "Peace be unto you"

50 Shades of Gay: Why Doesn’t That Boy Take Those Tight Jeans Off… Before Somebody Gets a Yeast Infection?!?

Well, as you all know… I do have a son who is gay… who I love dearly and as usual… I am in my room… minding my own business and guess who… yep… it’s him again… up to no good as usual! NOW… before we even get started… I don’t say this because he is gay… I say this because I know my teenage son and like most teenagers around his age… Yep they and he are usually… UP TO NO GOOD!!! Just Saying!

So, as he… once again… sashayed into my room saying Mommy in that irritating voice… you know that fake one or the one that someone uses… usually when they want something and you can tell by their tone… the way they are saying your name… and behaving all nice and things… that they want something… yep… that one… well in this case… saying Mommmmieeee… all long and just dragging it out…

Soulful Sundays: Girl... You’re Cute… But What About the Reflection Within?!?

"As-Salaam-Alaikum," "Peace be unto you"

Soulful Sundays: Girl... You're Cute… But What About the Reflection Within?!?

The most common item we as women use to examine our outer beauty and our physiques is a mirror. The mirror is used as a refining tool to ensure that our bodily appearance is on point and we are slaying the competition. The mirror allows us to view… than we scrutinize… than we attempt to correct… and some of us repeat this process repeatedly until someone comes in to remind us that it’s time to go and hurry up…. usually a male who doesn’t understand that we must look our best for us to impress… you know what I mean Ladies?!?

This somewhat perfect reflection of our outer selves allows us to worship our outer beauty while forgetting the true beauty that lies within us; or lack thereof. We spend more time reflecting on the blemishes on our faces and trying to cover them up… than spending time uncovering the blemishes that are in our hearts and starting our journey of healing…

She-Piphany Moments: ~ejnosillA's "Revised" Facebook Memory

"As-Salaam-Alaikum," "Peace be unto you"

She-Piphany Moments: ~ejnosillA's "Revised" Facebook Memory 

This Facebook memory was shared by a dear friend Tammy W. that was a post of mines that I shared 3 years ago in 2014 in response to my daughter's post... DeLores... Thanks for sharing Tammy!

In response to a post that was shared from Iyanla Vanzant's post about Love is simple and here is her post:

Love is simple. We make it hard with our trappings, expectations and demands. We place limits, restrictions and conditions on our loving and those we love. Love is simple. You simply give love for the sake of love, or you don't!

Here was My Response:

Soulful Sundays: Girl... You Got This... So, Please Stop Wasting Time Thinking About Him & Move On... He Did!!!

"As-Salaam-Alaikum," "Peace be unto you"

Soulful Sundays: 

Girl... You Got This... So, Please Stop Wasting Time Thinking About Him & Move On... He Did!!!

During my journeys… and as my blog’s popularity grows… I have run into some amazing women from various backgrounds. During our talks and me probing them about what they wanted me to write about, amazingly… regardless of their ethnic/racial backgrounds, ages or social and economic statuses… the main subject that came up a lot was for me to talk about relationships.

Now during these various conversations, we talked about a lot of things… as I did a comedy act while trying my best to keep up with their questions… you really have to catch my live show… coming to your area real soon… no just kidding… The one conversation that really stuck out in my mind were my talks with a group of young ladies about 18 to 21 years of age, who asked me a very significant question: how do I keep a man?

Soulful Sundays: Why is the Poor, Single Black Mother Always the Blame... What-A-Bout the Missing-In-Action Dads?!?

"As-Salaam-Alaikum," "Peace be unto You"

Soulful Sundays: Why is the Poor, Single Black Mother Always the Blame... What-A-bout the Missing-In-Action Dads?!?

As I watched the news and videos that were discussing the Miami Facebook tragedy of the little Black girl who committed suicide live on Facebook and the controversy surrounding the missing Black girls in the D.C. area, I was intrigued how the YouTube video vloggers were covering these two stories.  

Before I go any further, I want to send my condolences to the mother who child publicly committed suicide on Facebook and send my prayers out to the family as well as to the mothers and other family members of the missing teenage girls in the D.C. area.  I do recognize that both of these situations are tragic and as a mother, I would be devastated if my child chose to kill themselves rather it be on Facebook or in the privacy of our home… the shock and the horror would be devastating to me.

50 Shades of Gay: Are Young Black Gay Men the New Angry Black Woman?!?

"As-Salaam-Alaikum," "Peace be unto you"

50 Shades of Gay: Are Young Black Gay Men the New Angry Black Woman?

I can remember sitting in my room trying to watch television and kept getting interrupted by the angry chatter coming from the room across the hall from me. As the voice got louder and louder while getting higher and higher... than a little bass will come in… but now back to the high pitched sounds… I found myself numerously turning the volume up to drain out the noise and that irritating fake high than low voice when a thought crossed my mind… that boy better shut all of this damn noise up because I am in here minding my own business… trying to watch and can’t hear The Real Desperate House Maidens of the ATL… If I have to rewind or turn up this television one more time to hear Kandi go off on Porshia… somebody… meaning him… is about to get the business!

The Day in the Life of ejnosillA: To See or Not to See... To Cover or Not to Cover… Those are My Questions?!?

"As-Salaam-Alaikum," "Peace be unto you"

As a Muslim woman, I am commanded by ALLAH to lower my gaze and to cover up to avoid sinful temptations. Shaykh Muhammad Saalih al-Munajjid, general supervisor of the reputable Islam Q & A website, he described lowering ones gaze or ghadd al-basr (in Arabic), as being the point when one restrains their gaze and does not allow their gaze to wander or dwell upon anything. (You can scroll down to access more information and view a picture of Shaykh Muhammad Saalikh al-Munajjid).

As usual, I have found myself caught between a “rock and a hard” place. See within American culture, it is ingrained in us as youths that you are required to make eye contact or it is perceived as you are being rude, disrespectful or lying. Whereas in Islamic culture, lowering your gaze is a commandment from ALLAH and is a significant part of Islamic laws.

Motivational Mondays- Feeling Disrespected & Unappreciated...It Might Be Time to Renegotiate Your Contract

"As-Salaam-Alaikum," "Peace be unto you" 

Motivational Mondays- Feeling Disrespected & Unappreciated...It Might Be Time to Renegotiate Your Contract  

Do you find that you are constantly repeating how something made you feel, but feel that your man or significant other is to selfish to take the time out to take your feelings into consideration? Or have you found yourself having to keep reminding your homegirl that she needs to stay in HER lane and mind her business? Or maybe you find yourself constantly buying those hardheaded children stuff that they ask for… I call these ask-a-sentials… you know they are the things your kids ask for or want, but really do not need like essentials… but no chores are getting done around the house? Well… I am afraid dear… that it might be time for you to “Renegotiate Your Contracts!”

RedefiningHERstory: Are You “Shifting” Through Your Life? The Double Lives of Black Women in America

"As-salāmu ʿAlaykum," (Peace Be Upon You)

RedefiningHERstory: 

Are You “Shifting” Through Your Life? The Double Lives of Black Women in America

Do you find yourself changing your behaviors based on your socio-cultural groups that you are interacting with? Maybe changing the way you speak or changing mannerisms based on who is in the room? How about changing your outer appearance to fit into these groups? If you answered yes, Girlfriend… You may be “shifting” through your life!

“Shifting” or role-flexing is a concept that was coined by Charisse Jones and Dr. Kumea Shorter-Gooden in their 2003 book Shifting: the Double Lives of Black Women in America or “Shifting” that identifies Black women as being the inferior and marginalized group within American society purposely change aspects of their characteristics to conform or assimilate within dominate group settings and within society as a whole.

A Day in the LIfe of ejnosillA: Now... If I Wear My Hijab... Would You Kindly Shut Up and Sit Down!

"As-salāmu ʿAlaykum,"  (Peace Be Upon You)

A Day in the LIfe of ejnosillA:

Now... If I Wear My Hijab... Would You Kindly Shut Up and Sit Down!

As a Muslim of 6 ½ months, I have found myself in numerous, but friendly conversations about my Islamic beliefs. However, on one particular day at work, I had a conversation with a particular person who can really get on that last nerve… you know what I mean? That one who is... just doing the MOSTEST... as the kids would say!

The kind that regardless of the subject at hand, they want to act as if they know more and give you unnecessary or unwanted advice. You know that type that always has a condescending opinion that is masked as sincere advice, but their opinions are riddled in judgmental double talk and well… you know… hecks… just going to put it out there… STUPIDITY! THE KNOW IT ALL TYPE!!!

Soulful Sundays: Self-Care is the New Black

Soulful Sundays: Self-Care is the New Black

I know you probably hear the word “self-care” thrown around a lot and when you are a busy woman, finding time for self-care probably sounds as realistic as winning the lottery, it just ain’t gonna happen. As a life coach, I cannot stress enough the importance of finding time for yourself, even if it’s as little time as 15 minutes. One of my favorite quotes is ” you cannot pour from an empty cup,” because it is so true. 

What-a-bout-it Wednesdays: A Day Without A Woman… That's Cute and All, but What about My Coins?

"As-Salaam-Alaikum," the Arabic greeting meaning "Peace be unto you,"

What-a-bout-it Wednesdays: A Day Without a Woman… That's Cute and All, but What about My Coins?

Yes... Yes... Yes... today’s “A Day Without A Woman” protest is going strong on International Women's Day. How strong you ask? Well, it's the most trending topic on Twitter and Facebook. Now, I too would love a day to sit around and do nothing while pretending that this day will really positively affect how the world would change their views on economic equality for women… but come on…REALLY? 

Motivational Mondays: Inspiring, Encouraging & Empowering Women in Your Life

"As-Salaam-Alaikum" ("Peace be unto You")

Motivational Mondays: Inspiring, Encouraging & Empowering Women in Your Life

We all have women in our lives that could use a little inspiration and empowerment. By us taking the time out of our daily lives and reaching out to these women, we can create an empowering network of support for them. By creating this system of encouragement and empowerment, this would produce a positive atmosphere in which this beautiful lady could realize her dreams and have the confidence to achieve them.

Soulful Sundays: “Whatcha YOU Talking About Girl… You’re a Side Chick Too!?!”

"As-Salaam-Alaikum" ("Peace be unto you")

Soulful Sundays: “Whatcha YOU Talking About Girl… You’re a Side Chick Too!?!”

In my travels throughout my beautiful city and on social media, I have ran across plenty of entertaining… yes I said entertaining… arguments with women fussing about their so-called men. They were either fussing at the other woman, fussing at their man, or on Facebook/Youtube making silly videos threatening other women about their so-called men. Regardless, of the platform these women were just fussing; thus, the inspiration for the topic of the day: “Whatcha You Talking About Girl… You’re a Side Chick Too!?!”