As I watched the news and videos that were discussing the Miami Facebook tragedy of the little Black girl who committed suicide live on Facebook and the controversy surrounding the missing Black girls in the D.C. area, I was intrigued how the YouTube video vloggers were covering these two stories.
On the other hand, I have felt the pains of a child running away from home and I didn’t know where he was or what the hell was going on. That fear is a fear that I would not want anyone to ever experience… the fear of the unknown is indescribable for me… especially when it comes to a love one as dear to me as my child! Let’s begin…
I began to wonder… as I often do in these situations… Why is it that we immediately jump on the Black single mothers, but somehow the missing-in-action fathers get a free pass?!? In every one of the commentaries… NOT ONE… and I mean… NOT ONE… even stopped to mention anything about the missing dad of these young Black teenage girls.
I feel I need to clarify something here because I oftentimes find myself being accused of always speaking on the Black woman's plight and issues that concern us and some feel that these situations can also apply to the White single mothers or women of the world... and that is true... However, I am not negating the experiences of other single mothers from other diverse ethnic/racial backgrounds, but it seems to me that the negative media focus is not on them, but on us and more importantly... I have to speak my truths from my experiences and my perspective which in this case... is a Single Black mother's perspective! Moving along...
Do you know how outdone I was and felt that these people had the nerves to come into my home and suggest to me that I need parenting classes because I seem to have anger or control issues because I won’t allow my son enough freedom and give him rewards for the good things he does… like making good grades, cleaning his room… or even… now this is the kicker… or even coming home on time and being good. I thought to myself then and even now… WHAT TYPE OF FOOLISHNESS IS THIS!?!
First of all… where the hell is my reward for raising his bad azz by myself and putting up with is constant disrespect and his foolery? Second of all… who the hell made up the rule that kids are supposed to be rewarded for things that they are supposed to do?!? I would like to see each one of those committee members to give them a piece of my mind! Finally… I be damned! Let me say it again because that felt so good… I be DAMNED… If I am going to reward bad behavior!
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Better yet... Why don't they call his dad since I am the bad guy... oh you did... and he hasn't reached out... How about that... well why don't you take your college educated smart azzez over to his house and give him the business while you are over here looking at me... the victim... with your side eyes!!! Oh I get it... so he pays his $100.00 a month in child support for two kids and that is considered is fatherly contribution while I put up with the hell from his child because he is missing out of his life... once again... Bye Felecia!!!
Meaning, I did my homework and I researched the system and tapped into my resources… you gotta think corporate when dealing with these people… it's about what you know and about who you know! You are going to need to use these skills and resources when dealing with the court system or they will jack you up! Just Saying!
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I don’t care if you are Latina, Asian, Pacific Islander mothers… hell even the White low-income single mothers who are raising mixed children… these people mean us no good and all single mothers get a bad wrap because of the few. We live in a society that views anything that goes against societal White male norms is a danger to their traditional societal/social orders.
ejnosillA’s Final Thoughts
Although, he knows how to pull my strings… by the way… he still hasn’t made it home and he is not a runaway... just a hardheaded 19-year-old who doesn't want to do his chores... and he gets on my nerves and I on his… we have a better and closer relationship because I stopped… and took a look at myself. If you want to truly change your circumstances than stop trying to change the people/children around you… and start by changing yourself!