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Monday, February 27, 2017

Motivational Mondays: "Treating Our Sistahs with Kindness"

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Motivational Mondays: “Treating Our Sistahs with Kindness”


As you go about your day, remember to treat others with kindness. See, we as Black women the instinct to be strong is engrained in our DNA and sometimes we rather suffer in silence than ask for help. You never know what a Sistah may be going through… Those agonizing trials and tribulations that we are constantly trying to battle on our own… That plague our very existence.

Saturday, February 25, 2017

Cultural Contracts: "Have You Signed One Lately?"

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Cultural Contracts: "Have You Signed One Lately?"


Cultural Contracts are contracts that we knowingly sign during our intercultural interactions. Hey Ladies, have you ever been in a meeting and you were the only minority in the room and agreed with the decisions that were being made? You just agreed “to go along, just to get along?”… even though in  your heart  you really disagreed, but wanted to avoid the conflict so you just agreed to whatever… well YOU have signed a cultural contract.

Thursday, February 23, 2017

She-Piphany Moments: The Key

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The Key

The Key.
 “Why,” she began to ask, “Why can’t I have my key back?”
  “NO!”  He said in a stern and sarcastic tone. The voice she have heard many times before when discussing particular relationship issues with him. “It’s mine and I’m not giving it back, so please stop asking me!” He said it as if she were bothering him. She continued to ask him and he continued to say “No.”

Wednesday, February 22, 2017

RedefiningHERstory: Racial Microaggressions In The Everyday Lives of Black Women



"As-Salaam-Alaikum," the Arabic greeting meaning "Peace be unto you"


RedefiningHERstory: Racial Microaggressions In The Everyday Lives of Black Women


Hey Ladies, have you ever heard someone say, “You are so beautiful for a dark skinned girl” or “this is my Muslim friend, and she is not a terrorist.” My personal favorite that I get all of the time from White women are: “You are a single mom with five kids, low-income and getting your Master’s Degree? Wow! You must be really smart” or “for a Black woman, you don’t act like the other Black women I see at the grocery story.” These Ladies are subtle examples of racial microaggressions – these are compliments riddled with subtle racist undertones. Did you choose to take the high road like I have often done because I got tired of explaining the same things to these people and chalked it up to pure ignorance? Or did you immediately address it? Whatever the case maybe, Black women are faced with racial microaggressions on a daily basis and here is why.

Monday, February 13, 2017

Happy Valentine’s Day: What is the True Significance Behind This Holiday?

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Happy Valentine’s Day: What is the True Significance Behind This Holiday?


With Valentine’s Day being less than 24-hours away, television commercials, advertisements and social media sources are filled with all types of last minute ideas to express your love to that special one. With so many Valentine’s cards, boxes of boxes of assorted chocolates and a variety of flowers to choose from, this holiday has become extremely commercialized and expensive.

Sunday, February 12, 2017

Still to Come on the Season of the Real Housewives of Atlanta - Season 9

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Still to Come on this Season of the Real Housewives of Atlanta -

 Season 9


It looks like our favorite "House Maidens" from the Real Housewives of Atlanta (Season 9) are at it again! As you can see from Bravo's preview clip -Still to Come on this Season of the Real Housewives of Atlanta - Season 9, these ladies are coming out swinging on the second half of season 9. The 2 minutes/31 seconds clip starts off showing the ladies enjoying fun activities together that will unfold as the rest of season 9 progresses... remember the last episode of the first half of the season left off with the ladies on the tour bus enroute to the glamping site and the ladies temperatures were rising. 

My Meeting with Mayor Stothert: A Fair Deal for Low-Income Single Mothers in North Omaha or a Raw One? You Decide!

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My Meeting with Mayor Stothert: A Fair Deal for Low-Income Single Mothers in North Omaha or a Raw One? You Decide!


I was truly enthusiastic about my invitation to be my dad, Bilal Nosilla's plus one to go to a private luncheon to meet with Mayor Jean Stothert on Friday, February 10, 2017 at Fair Deal Café in North Omaha, Nebraska. My excitement was more about spending time with my dad and finally getting to eat at Fair Deal Café than it was to meet the mayor. Now, before everyone gets started and trying to jump down my throat about this being an opportunity of a lifetime, you must understand that spending time with my dad is more important to me than meeting any public official or even a star. Hecks if Chris Brown walked into a restaurant and I was eating some good ole soul food... Chris Brown better keep it moving or Soulja Boy will not be the only one he would be fighting in the boxing ring in Vegas.

Tuesday, February 7, 2017

Black Female Reality Television: Why Do I Like Reality TV?

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Black Female Reality Television: Why Do I Like Reality TV?


After receiving numerous correspondences about my blog article: RedefiningHERstory: “This is not MY Reality or Black Womanhood,” I was asked an important question: why do you watch reality television? I began to really think about this question: why do I really watch reality television? Could it be because I see Black women on these top rated reality shows (e.g. the Real Housewives of Atlanta, Married to Medicine, Love and Hip Hop Atlanta, or Basketball Wives) that look like me and are an inspiration because they have made it? Hey, we all cannot deny that these Black women have a great platform and in that essence, they have made it.

Saturday, February 4, 2017

RedefiningHERstory: The Original Statue of Liberty is a Sistah and Muslim?

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 RedefiningHERstory: The Original Statue of Liberty is a Sistah and Muslim?


It's amazing how much history has been kept from Black and gender studies. WHO would have guessed that the original Statue of Liberty was Black and Muslim! Who would have thunk it? See, the creation of the statue was to commemorate the roles that Black male soldiers, men and women played by ending chattel slavery during the Civil War in the United States. The French government proposed that the people of France should present a present to the people of the United States to recognize the fact that Black soldiers won the Civil War for the United States; thus, the gifting of the original Statue of Liberty. Naturally, she would be modeled after a Black woman... right?!?

Friday, February 3, 2017

RedefiningHERstory: “This is not MY Reality or Black Womanhood!”

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RedefiningHERstory: “This is not MY Reality or Black Womanhood!” 


The mass media’s structure can be categorized as being a racial and sexist system capable of influencing viewers’ philosophies about minorities and their behaviors as well has established, promoted, and manipulated a standard of televised White normalcy for womanhood. Throughout history, White women were viewed as being innocent, passive, demure, pure, and pure; the epitome of womanhood while Black women were viewed as morally corrupt, overly aggressive, brassy and sassy who are hypersexual beasts and were exposed to the same disparaging ideologies, treatment and harsh sufferings as Black men (Dugger, 1988). Our identity is entwined with being Black and female.

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